Monday, August 29, 2011

Tempting Mommy

It's been 2 weeks since the twins converted to toddler beds and I've made a decision.

I want my babies back!

Overall, they have transitioned fairly well.  They are still really excited about the beds which I'm happy about.

What I'm not happy about is the additional hour it's taking to get them to sleep.  They can be practically falling asleep on the couch and as soon as they hit their bedroom door, they are suddenly rejuvenated.

The newest game is called "Tempting Mommy".  Here's how you play:
  1. Lay in bed and pretend like you are going to sleep
  2. When mommy leaves the room, quickly get out of bed and run around the room
  3. When mommy returns to the room, squeal and giggle and run back to bed
  4. If mommy decides to stay in the room, quietly put one foot on the floor and watch her to see if she will react.  If she does react, quickly get back in bed and go back to step 1.
  5. If mommy yells, "Get back in bed!", she doesn't mean it.  If you laugh at her, she gets even madder and that's really funny
  6. If Daddy comes in to the room, he means business and you must act like you are going to sleep until he leaves.  Once he leaves, get out of bed because mommy will come back in and then the game begins again.
I'm also realizing that Kendall takes much, much longer to settle down.  Here's a typical pre-sleep routine with her:
  1. Lay head on pillow and then pop up and say, "Ut Oh" because the blanket "fell off"
  2. Do this at least 5 times
  3. Say hi and/or night night to every stuffed animal in the bed and as you name them, kiss each of them
    1. Hi Elmo,
    2. Hi Baaa,
    3. Hi Un-key (monkey),
    4. Hi Woof,
    5. Hi Minnie Mouse,
  4. After saying hi and/or night night, throw each animal off the bed and say "Ut Oh"
    1. It's NOT an Ut Oh if you do it on purpose!
    2. This is usually where I start to lose my cool
  5. Get out of bed and put each animal back in bed
  6. Start singing
  7. Start fluffing pillow
    1. Do this at least 10 times
You get the picture. 

Once they are asleep, they have been staying in bed all night.  Although, for some reason, they are getting up earlier.  As in 5:00 am earlier.  Yuck!

Christopher is usually the first one up and he doesn't like to party alone.  If we don't get in the room and grab him, he'll go over to Kendall.

"Dendall!  Dendall!"

I was asked if I've thought about splitting them up and putting them in different rooms.  Eventually, I think we'll have to.  I guess part of me feels guilty for doing it.  They didn't get to spend a lot of time together for their first 3 months and sometimes I wonder if they lost some bonding time. 

I was convinced they hated each other for the first 6 months.  Every time I positioned them next to each other, Kendall would cry.

And, I don't think Christopher would do well in a bedroom by himself just yet.  He's much more clingy and he's starting to ask for her when they are apart.

"Where Dendall?"

I guess my plan is to let them decide when it's time to seperate.  I found one idea that suggested asking them every year before their birthday.  I like that idea.

I like the idea of an easy bedtime even better.

8 comments:

Krisy said...

This terrifies me! I hope with all my hope they don't climb out of their crib for at least another year! Keep hanging in there, its gotta stop at some point right??

Journey said...

A friend of mine has 2.5 year old boy/girl twins and lets them "play it out" in their room before bed. Eventually the newness of the nightly party wears off and they settle down much quicker. They had several incidents of "bed hopping" when the twins were in their cribs and figure letting them play in the safety of their room is much safer than one of them falling out of their crib in their attempt to join their brother or sister.

Becoming Supermommy said...

Oy! I'm trying so hard to avoid the inevitable switch to beds from cribs... I've rearranged the room so that they can't play over the rails as easily, and now it's just half an our of chaos instead of an hour and a half, but actual beds? Just not plain ready. They can stay in cribs until they're... what, four or so?

Wendy said...

We haven't had issue with Zoe getting out of her big girl bed, but last week was definitely rough...waking up screaming/crying at 4:30am and we're not sure why and not wanting to go to bed at all...for naps or night time. She used to want to go to bed...not anymore!! I guess it will get better...just takes time? Hopefully?!

Once Upon A Time said...

Oh my goodness, you are giving me nightmares about what's ahead of us! Yup, Sam and Anna might just be in cribs until they are 18. :)

Anonymous said...

Same lurker with the twin girls, the crib tent not working, th beds in the same rooms until almost 4 etc, rocker and girlie daughter.. remember me? Your struggle sounds familiar, the transition time for us was around 2.5 to 3 weeks, before the girls would stop playing and getting up. One tip that I got from (of all places Supper Nanny) is to stick to the same bedtime routine you had before, put them in bed at the same time, leave the room and then everytime they get up you put them back in bed, not saying a word, nor making eye contact, then leave the room (we used to wait outside of their room), and put them back the moment they would poke their head outside their room, we started doing so, the first night they got out of bed 6 times, next night 5, next night 3 and by the 5th or 6th night they would not get out of bed. Your story is bringing long forgotten memories, right after the switch to toddler beds, their sleeping routine went from 1 to 3 hours, after 13 nights we were exhausted, and saw no change in sight, then we watched SuperNanny, and that same night decided to try her "technique" and voila! After 5 nights the routine was back to normal, which meant free time after 8 pm instead of 11 pm! (And as every mom of multiples knows, free time= cleaning, laundry, preparing lunches for daycare, doing dishes and then crawl to bed around 11)

Kendra said...

YIKES. I am dreading this part...

Anonymous said...

I'd try the Super Nanny method. Go in, place them both back in their beds, and walk back out. No talking, no smiling, make it no fun at all. First night it might take hours, but it seems like after that it works like a charm. They realize eventually that they're not going to get a rise out of you. Easier said than done, I'm sure, but worth a try... Good luck!